How to get people to do what I want them to do!

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4

In this episode, I’m digging into one of the most common questions I hear in coaching: “How do I get people to do what I want?” Spoiler alert – you can’t make anyone do anything, but you can influence them.

In this episode, I’m digging into one of the most common questions I hear in coaching: “How do I get people to do what I want?” Spoiler alert – you can’t make anyone do anything, but you can influence them.

I share practical ways to build influence by focusing on what you can control, how you communicate, and the strength of the relationship you build with others.

We’ll explore ideas like contracting ways of working, the power of asking the right questions when delegating, and whether you’re fixing or managing a situation.

If you’ve ever felt frustrated when others don’t follow through, or you’re navigating tricky dynamics at work, this one’s for you. Let’s reframe how we lead and influence – without falling into the trap of control.

Here are the highlights:

Influencing Others to Achieve Your Goals (1:42)

Strengthening Relationships for Better Influence (2:25)

Effective Delegation and Closing Gaps in Communication (6:00)

Fix vs. Manage: Addressing Issues Proactively (8:15)

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