In this episode, I’m exploring the gap between what we intend as leaders and how our behaviour actually lands.
You might genuinely trust, respect and support your team, but if your actions communicate control, checking or hovering, that is the experience people will remember.
We look at why this gap often gets wider under pressure, how unconscious habits can override our values, and why self-awareness alone isn’t enough.
I also share three practical ways to notice the gap, understand your impact and start rebuilding trust through consistent behaviour.
Highlights:
(01:36) – Why your team experiences your behaviour, not your intentions
(03:07) – How trust can quickly start to look like micromanagement
(04:28) – Why pressure exposes the habits hiding underneath your values
(05:34) – How small contradictions quietly erode trust and psychological safety
(07:44) – Three ways to start closing the intent and impact gap
(09:44) – The simple question that can show you how your leadership really lands
