Why you’re carrying emotions that aren’t yours

Episode Number

12

Ever found yourself feeling a certain way but not quite sure if it’s actually yours to carry? In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when we absorb other people’s emotions, how to spot when it’s happening, and what to do about it.

Ever found yourself feeling a certain way but not quite sure if it’s actually yours to carry? 

In this episode, we’re talking about what happens when we absorb other people’s emotions, how to spot when it’s happening, and what to do about it. 

It’s something I’ve wrestled with in my own leadership journey, so I’m bringing you a real example and some simple tools to help you figure out – “is this feeling mine?” 

Let’s unpack it together.

Highlights:

(01:08) Do feelings belong in leadership?

(04:40) The power of vulnerability at work

(08:02) Feelings are data, not drama

(11:56) Not every emotion you feel is yours

(16:40) The feelings wheel is your secret weapon

(20:05) Process or absorb? You get to choose

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